He has a bachelor's degree in psychology, a master's in counseling and guidance and a PhD in counseling psychology, all from Brigham Young University. And it is only when we are faced with failure do we realize that these resources were always there within us. He served as a member of the Europe Area Presidency from August 2013 to August 2016 and is currently serving at Church headquarters as an assistant executive director in the Temple Department. It's 100 miles, you know, and when you think "Well, I can't run 100 miles," you probably can, it might take you 20 years to do it, but you can do that. And then once you learn that, he throws a slider or something like that, right? Elder Timothy J. Dyches was sustained as a General Authority Seventy of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints on April 6, 2013. But a tenacious and resourceful aeronautical engineering team at Grumman changed all of that. But man, we've got to start thinking differently because just like you've experienced, and just as I've experienced, change is inevitable. Sure. So being all in is, it's an actionable word on my part, it's saying, this is my opportunity to be the best I can to do the best with what Heavenly Father has given me, and then to return to Him confidently and saying, "Here's what I did. I love that. - Thomas Crum, "It may be that some little root of the sacred tree still lives. And thenand when we lack confidence in ourselves, of course that's a killer from the beginning. One of the things I tell people about stress and anxiety is that we just need to recognize that it's going to be part of our experience. In the Christ-centered life, yours is not the option of doubting and fearing. And I could say, "Well, clearly diet and exercise don't work because it's been a whole five minutes and five push ups later and I'm still the same." That in itself is an accomplishment. The resilient humbly adapt and learn; a failure is a form of helpful feedback for the next attempt. I can get up and make my bed today. And we know that about the chronic effects of stress, that stress and anxiety have a similar kind of physiological reaction in the body. Bad things do happen to good people in this life. And we all know a little thing about vaccines right now, that's a very, very applicable analogy. Edison replied, "I didnt fail 1,000 times. How do we describe this?" But it's not designed to run like that long term. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you've lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that's good." - Elizabeth Edwards "My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. - M. Scott Peck, "Never measure the height of the mountain until you have reached the top. Build it strong. He is a regular presenter at BYU Women's Conference and BYU Education Week. Finding Strength in the Lord: Emotional Resilience. And I'm glad to answer it. Ted Lasso Shows the Power of Emotional Intelligence for Top Leaders . - Dr. Chris Peterson, "Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars." We say, "Well, because of my situation"if it's a mental health issue"My anxiety, my depression," whatever it is, "These are all the things I can't do." But then that usually provides some very long term health benefits. I want to become the best I can be. Trust me here. And the idea of emotional resilience, just this idea of bouncing back from stressors is super important now. Right. Each faced potential disaster but with willpower endured and thrived. Here's what I learned. We need to develop spiritual strength as well, in addition to anything else to do, whatever else you decide. The house stood until the adversity came. When a reporter asked, "How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?" Ponder. Just crushing it. And so I would, I think it was Elder Holland, when he talked about years ago, when he did his "Like a Broken Vessel" talk, which was kind of the watershed talk on on mental health, probably one of the first times it's been addressed at depth in general conference, and the Church has dramatically increased its reach and resources for mental health, some awesome stuff in Gospel Library, and on the Church's website for mental health resources. And I say, "Absolutely. I love that question. Find it and prosper." And so when I have days where I feel down and depressed and you know that I am not worthy or whatever, I try to remember that feeling. The emotional resilience materials are currently available in English, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Russian and other languages, with 10 additional languages forthcoming. So it's just flailing in the water because he's so terrified that he's going to drown. And they bring to mind something else, too. The thick fog bank again descended and obscured her view at the same critical moment in this daunting endeavor. Even though these feelings can be uncomfortable, they can't harm you. How can you overcome your doubts and fears? And this is something that I am super passionate about, I think Satan tries more than just about anything to make us not understand who we are, and that if we understood who we were, it would change everything. A course of study on this topic has . It's okay to be wrong. We need to do like Elder Bednar counsels and says, "Teach me how to hit curveballs." So procrastination can get you and also what I call "Lack of sustained effort." And in Helaman chapter five, where Helaman encourages the sons to build theirto found themselves on the rock of Jesus Christ. That's a beautiful answer. ", And, and I've beenI'm a psychologist, and I've worked with people in these situations for years, and there's all kinds of books and references and resources and President Nelson said, the simplest statement, he said, "Teach them their identity and purpose. And what can be said enough of the resilience of Brigham Young and the pioneers, many who traveled in handcarts, no less! - Dag Hammarskjold, "The weariest night, the longest day, sooner or later must perforce come to an end." - Yasmin Mogahed, "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." One of the blessings of hope is resilience; one of the products of resilience is hope. Church responds to members' mental health challenges - LDS Living Minute after minute, hour after hour ticked by as Chadwick resolutely swam on, despite bone-chilling cold, unpredictable currents and terribly dense fog. David T. Morgan is a licensed psychologist with over 20 years of experience in the mental health field. So things like depression, anxiety, anger, stress, fear, all those things. To me, there is nothing more important and life-altering than to develop a positive outlook. So will you learn things in adversity that you would never have discovered without trouble. They're going to church, they feel the Spirit. I'm not sure if there's ever been an interview as timely as the one you're about to listen to. I persevere, and not just blindly. Its easy to remember, sometimes difficult to apply: You cant be right by doing wrong; you cant be wrong by doing right. And of course, Satan's going to capitalize on that and say, "Well, yeah, see, because you're not doing what you're supposed to. And it says, "And then when the devil sends forth, his winds, his mighty winds, his shafts in the whirlwind," all those sorts of things, "He says then it will have no power over you, because of the foundation upon which you're built.". And that's when you start to see some of the physical health complications because of that. I take the best, get rid of the rest, and move on, realizing that you can make a choice to take the good." Another thing that you talk about kind of being an initial way that Satan tries to attack us is to make us feel like we can't change, and you write this, "Often I hear people lament that they cannot change certain negative personality characteristics, claiming, 'That's just the way I am.' We. I really appreciate that. And Heavenly Father knows that. And I know the Lord will find me reliable. W e've had plenty of time to sort this out, each of us. She lifted her goggles and looked in all directions but could not to see the shore through the fog bank. But we like consistency, as human beings. Interestingly, behavioral scientists have learned that working your bodys muscles regularly seems to positively improve the thinking processes in your brain, increasing your resilience. You cannot defeat me." Then you will see how low it was." Develop a core set of foundational doctrines and principles as your personal code of conduct that nothing can shake or replace. So, after 15 hours and 55 minutes of constant swimming and over 58,000 strokes, she was pulled out of the water into the boat. And then the next step is just to do something. -Woodrow Wilson, "Only those who dare to fail greatly, can ever achieve greatly." Other self-reliance manuals offered by the Church are titled " Personal Finances ," " Starting and Growing My Business ," " Find a Better Job " and " Education . I don't know, you know, howI'm sure that the spirit is powerful enough to break through those things. Because of His atoning sacrifice, He stands as our Advocate and Savior. But he did a great job and now he's an amazing public speaker. We express our love to God by obedience to His commandments. But he could never say he was wrong. need to develop that confidence in ourselves. But rather when these things girdle your life and yet you rise above them naked and unbound." Let any obstructing cause, no matter what, be removed in any way, even by death, and we fly back to first principles of hope and enjoyment." Forget everything except what you are going to do right now, and do it. There's, sometimes there's issues of worthiness, right? I mean that person can take medication as prescribed, that person could learn to trust a caseworker or something like that. - Baroness Orczy, "We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world." I love that you have Amazon Prime. I think, you know, the example of the Rainy Day Parade, it's like, that could be something that brings somebody in a role that's in charge of parades, a lot of stress, and I think all of us have had these things come up over the last couple of years that invites stress into our lives. Doing everything and taking advantage of every opportunity that I have when the Lord says, "Here's another chance to grow," instead of saying, "Well, that sounds really hard. And my wife who really should be the psychologist, she's a genius, and she goes up there and she talked to him and she said, "Look, I don't care if you write it down, I don't care if you just get up there, say your name, and walk down," she says, "But you're gonna go, you're gonna do it, I want you to do this. And quite frankly, if we haven't learned our lesson by now, we probably won't learn it, I almost feel like going to Heavenly Father and saying, "Look, you can probably just take it now. [P]sychological resilience refers to the ability to use personal qualities to withstand pressure. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present." And then the Young Men's theme is: "I am a beloved Son of God, and he has a work for me to do." Absolutely not. - Elizabeth Edwards, "When we tackle obstacles, we find hidden reserves of courage and resilience we did not know we had. In 1985 he began a private practice performing ear, nose, throat, and head and neck surgery until 2008. And so I wondered how you would respond in terms of, is that normal? But from Chadwicks compromised viewpoint in the water, all she could see was fog. And then we have stress about being stressed. LDS Emotional Resilience Class - YouTube That's its balance." If you havent needed emotional resilience over the last two years, we would like to officially dub you a superhero. Still unseen, the three-year-old, snuck behind and thought, This looks easy. With little feet, a narrow beam, and more energy than equilibrium, he was quickly down in the fast-moving water, with only a lock of red hair above the water. And it's one of thethere are, in the book, I talk about seven kind of pillars or tenets of emotional resilience, that as we increase our ability in each of these areas that we're going to increase our emotional resilience. Elder Dyches attended Brigham Young University, where he earned a bachelors degree in university studies. like they can't change or that God has checked out on them. I've done what I needed to do. - Jose N. Harris, "You all know that I have been sustained throughout my life by three saving gracesmy family, my friends, and a faith in the power of resilience and hope. After finishing the Church's new emotional resilience course, Becca Ekberg said the biggest change she has noticed is her attitude about life. Through the resurrection of Jesus Christ all are delivered from death, and all will rise in the Resurrection. They, too, are faced with conforming to societal norms that dont always match up with the principles of the gospel. And he did not like swimming at all. It's not the only answer, but it is definitely part of the answer. kind of stuck, a little bit, and so I wondered what would you say are the first steps of that moving forward? If you've had, you know, a vaccination, you know, that there's, sometimes there's some adverse reaction to it as your body's trying to deal with it. "If you believe you cannot change something, then your efforts to change will likely be less motivated than they otherwise could be. As we take the sacrament, we renew all our covenants and our commitment to take upon us His name, to always remember him and keep hiscommandments. [17]We find that repentance and resilience are traveling companions filled with hope and joy as we worthily participate. So well said. But he said, you know, if you broke your arm, you would ask for a priesthood blessing, and you'd also go to a doctor. The key to success was Leo Grummans motto: Keep it simple. Doubt Not, Fear Not: Developing Spiritual Resilience - Idaho Willpower and grit make it possible to not only survive misfortune or tragedy but, in some, to thrive both during and after these trials. For Emotional Resilience class onlyhttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/media/video/2016-10-2002-like-a-broken-vessel?lang=eng Well, David, I wish that we had talked a while ago, that would have been helpful to me, but hopefully this will be helpful to somebody. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, "I will be bigger than you. Among adults, many are faced with the pressures and pleasures of life and often forget the bigger picture and true focus of this life. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.". And this isI'm sure, probably way too colloquial. And he was so right, like after those first few weeks, things got better. But if it's something that's weak, you can't. And the Savior, you know, has redeemed me to the point, He's, you know, taken away the rest of my sin and blemish so that I can be here." So I love reframing that as you haven't done anything wrong, Heavenly Father's trying to bless you. I'm pleasantly surprised with my resilience. At the time of his call, he was serving in a ward Young Men presidency. You, as His son or daughter, were chosen by Him to come to earth at this precise time, to be a leader in His great work on earth. For Facilitators. [26] Robert Keen, How Firm a Foundation; lds.org. And three of the roadblocks that I suggest were: misunderstanding our purpose, procrastination, and then lack of sustained effort. The how is the trials Ive been through. What Church leaders and members are saying about the new emotional I lovethat kind of segues well into this idea of tenacity, which is something that you talk a lot about, you give several examples, including Thomas Edison. Timothy John Dyches was born in Murray, Utah, on January 15, 1951. Because if we haven't learned yet, we're probably not going to learn.". Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who do not. And I know that's the way He still feels about me. - Steve Goodier, "No matter how much falls on us, we keep plowing ahead. |Ensign, November 1990, p. 47. I can imagine her repeating over and over, Just keep swimming; dont give up.. And it's amazing, like those little wins, how much they can help build confidence. - Helen Keller, "It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. The Hellcat achieved a 19 to 1 success ratio; for every 19 planes it downed, 1 Hellcat was lost. I hope that was, I hope that is great." Big thanks to David Morgan for joining me on today's episode. So if we can learn to kind of almost embrace failure, like Thomas Edison did, he says "I haven't failed 9000 times, I just learned 9000 times how not to make a light bulb." Unlike a typical church class, no one was assigned to be the teacher. My Self-Reliance Group [4:01] Exercise Faith in Jesus Christ [1:43] He Is Building a Palace [1:19] Mountains to Climb [5:05] Grateful in Any Circumstance [1:06] In fact, it was causing her not to feel anything. And so if we spend, if we have stress, which maybe occupies 20% of our emotional energy, and then we spend another 70% of our energy stressing about that stress, then that leaves very little for us to actually, you know, do something. According to Darwins, Never lose sight of your purpose on earth and your divine destiny. They are the parents of three children. David, toward the end of the book, you talk about something that I thought was fascinating. - Mary Holloway, "Experience life in all possible waysgood-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer winter. And it is profound it is, your body just feels completely full of His love and it lasted for like 10 seconds. Absolutely not. It has to go through the white heat of the furnace to become porcelain." . Evrything obeys His commands. Though He was crucified, He rose triumphant from the tomb to our everlasting blessing and benefit. Well, and Iyou're absolutely right, Morgan, I think this is something that's probably touched all of us at one point. And how have you seen that in those that you've worked with? So it's not a question of . And Joseph Smith, who, although tarred and feathered one painful, winter night, arose the next morning and preached a sermon without mentioning the violence that had been inflicted upon him. It's where we're destined to go again. Has the worlds influence purveyed a new and improved model of the disciples life that creeps into ours? So I wondered, if we could kind of start outI thought it was interesting. Message from the First Presidency. Listen as one stake president recently addressed the most significant spiritual and temporal challenges facing his stake: Complacency, worldly distractions, immorality, and the philosophies of men. And so when we get into situations where we experience failure, and we don't persist, then we don't gain the benefit from that. There's a temptation to avoid it altogether, because it's unpleasant to go through that. Dr. Morgan believes that real hope and healing for mental health issues is possible. And then He's got these lines that are drawn over to the right hand side, and on the right hand side are these Christlike characteristics, things like patience and tolerance and understanding and diligence. And we must have faith in God, and in the Universe, and in a better tomorrow, even if that faith is not always deserved. And I think that we don't like to think that we're wrong, either. And I think it's part of our Heavenly Father's intention for us, especially in 2022, because we have fewer other challenges than our ancestors did. And then the rest of my life began." Well it's just like you said, COVID-19 has kind of cast a spotlight on how we deal with stressors. She was utterly exhausted and was attended to medically. - Brooke Shields, "Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up." The temple is a source of enduring joy. [16]. He served a mission back East and he's an excellent teacher. That means to me that being all in means giving it everything. That is the essence of emotional resilience broader shoulders. . Apple TV+. It's kindyou could kind of view it, this tolerating negative emotions to tolerate negative affect, you kind of view it like an inoculation or an immunization. So throughout this book you kind of offer ways toyou refer to a lot of roadblocks to emotional resiliency and ways to overcome those roadblocks. And I think yeah, it's very normal to to want to do that. We get in trouble when we get too rigid in our thinking as well, when we think there's just one way to do things. There's pockets of stressors that happen and sometimes it affects whole nations, but to affect the whole world is interesting. And they're just beyond hope, and all of those things are just completely satanic, it's his deception, that somehow we've gotten beyond the Savior's grasp, and we aren't. It's something I've been become very skilled at over the years. Okay, David, I have one last question for you before we get to our all in question. Emotional Resilience. But that doesn't mean that addressing things from a spiritual perspective is not part of the equation. Finding an exercise regimen you will stick to seems to be more important than the caloric expenditure, as exercise itself develops new neurons, some of which may have become damaged by constant stress. And I remember thinking about that when I wrote that I thought you know, we can't bethere's a lot of ways we should be like the Fonz's but not like that. Show Notes:2:18- Pressed To Our Limits5:44- Attacks on Identity8:28- Observers or Actors?11:51- Roadblocks to Personal Competence14:46- Tenacity and Endurance19:16- Accepting Stress24:06- Tolerating Negative Affect26:47- Anxiety and Panic Attacks33:52- Embracing Change39:05- Spiritualitys Impact on Resilience43:08- Beyond Help With Spirituality?49:22- What Does It Mean To Be All In? - Kahlil Gibran, "Search for the seed of good in every adversity. But after everything, and even when the skies turn scarlet and threatening, I still believe that if we are lucky enough to be alive, we must give thanks for the miracle of every moment of every day, no matter how flawed. Setbacks and comebacks are just part of the journey. Commit. It's going to make you stronger, and it's going to make you more like me in the long run.". Sincerely giving thanks not only helps us recognize our blessings, but it also unlocks the doors of heaven and helps us feel Gods love., Thomas S. Monson And then number two, if we just avoid the things that terrify us, then we arethen we're not going to get stronger as a result of them. If you've got major depression, then yes, ask for a priesthood blessing and make sure you're praying every day and studying your scriptures and going to Church and attending the temple as you can, and go see a counselor, and under competent medical advice, get on medication if needed, and those sorts of things, you know, do all those things, but don't leave one of them out that situation. It's going to involve some work on your part, and some effort and you're gonna have to learn a different batting stance and your arm might hurt as you learn how to, you know, do these different swings, but I will teach you how to hit curveballs.". And so I just don't think that is something that should be ignored anytime we're struggling with anything emotionally, and trying to increase our emotional capacities to deal with things we need to involve the Lord in that process. Church Releases New Emotional Resilience Manual - LDS365 That's where we came from. As I assembled the parts, I looked on the colorful images on the outside of the model box, where it was fighting Japanese Zeros in World War II. - C. G. Jung, "Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us." Said the Apostle Paul to James: Behold, we count them happy which endure. [27] I humbly bear you my testimony of Jesus Christ, the living Son of the living God, and that the infinite virtue of Christs sacrifice is available to all who endure. He married Jill Elizabeth Dudley in April 1974. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you've lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that's good." May I provide a simple formula by which you can measure the choices which confront you. That sounds uncomfortable." From The Princess Bride comes one of our many family-famous lines: Get used to disappointment. [7] Some things happen that are beyond our control; others occur precisely because of our choices. Episode 162. - Bram Stoker, "Resilience is very different than being numb. He is the author of multiple books, including his most recent book, Enduring the Refiners Fire: Emotional Resilience for Latter-day Saint Trials. And there's going to be a line from every one of our trials to every one of these Christlike characteristics. July 31, 2019 "Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had before. Elder Bednar talked a few years ago about a man who bought a four by four and got it stuck in the snow and then he was super embarrassed because his wife had told him not to buy the truck and he bought it anyway, and so, and he couldn't get it out. The future is ahead, prepare for it. D Dr. David T. Morgan, PhD| Psychologist | Author | Speaker Thank you very, very much. Right. Others you can develop here on earth as you persistently seek them. For each one of you, it will not be exactly the same, because you are not the same. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. So they both built a house, but it was when the adversity came that you saw the true nature of that house. It says, "What if you find yourself nowhere close to the rod of iron? We like things that are predictable, that we can deal with. The future is as bright as your faith., Thomas S. Monson - Og Mandino, "If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen. If we intentionally do things that we shouldn't, and we've commit sin, and in those cases we can repent, but a lot of times, like you talked about, people with feelings of depression, oftentimes they describe a difficulty being able to feel the Spirit. I mean, he's always, and then you say, "Now teach me how to hit that one." All In - LDS Living How canbecause she said she realized that that wasn't causing her to feel better. Ill remain faithful and true. And when we're on the path, we're on the covenant path and doing the best we can and striving our best, when we still experienced the significant issues, I think we can confidently say that this is part of Heavenly Father's plan to help us become more like Him. And my dad said to me, "Morgan, I don't know if you've noticed, but change is hard for you." Don't be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become." And so you talk about accepting stress and the ability that it has to strengthen us and to make us better. And we certainly know people who are kind of stuck in that situation where they just feel like . But Florence was even more devastated when she discovered she had tragically miscalculated her effort and distance. And he gets asked to speak in Church when he's like 12 or 13, right, his first talk, and he probably had a panic attack, he's freaking out the night before. As an inventor, courageous Thomas Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. And that's why I don't know about you, but I've had friends who have said, "It just feels like everybody's going through something right now.". My beloved brothers and sisters, fear not. Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts, noted Winston Churchill. If it were easy, would this spiritual willpower grow and develop at all? And you can say, "Hey, what if we developed waterproof costumes? No, we can always change direction. He's like, "Every time that you have some big change in your life, the first little bit, you hate it." If you have faith in Christ, you can recover as you experience lifes setbacks, you can adapt as conditions change around you, and you can persevere and triumph when adversity and discouragement are present, for He has said, Therefore, fear not, little flockdoubt not, fear not. [2], If our lives and our faith, President Howard W. Hunter declared, are centered upon Jesus Christ and his restored gospel, nothing can ever go permanently wrong. In Section 121 in the Doctrine and Covenants it talks about our confidence waxing strong in the presence of God. The when is my life on earth. But you are not alone and defeated. And so generally speaking, when you find yourself at the end of a road at a dead end, there's probably a few more ways out of that. Without relinquishing your core standards and beliefs, learn how to adapt and cope with challenges. I love too how you said "Very rarely in history have people been going through the same thing at the same time."
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